Emotional pain
caused by something in your childhood was or is caused by a known event or life situation
(short or long term) that caused trauma.
You may know the reason for the trauma that you know is causing you emotional issues (eg: child of alcoholic parents,
or family death)or you don't know (eg: childhood illness or premature birth) that is stored in your
subconscious.  Either way we may not realize how intensely trauma can affect 
many areas of our life - specifically our beliefs about ourselves.
So what is emotional pain?
Pain that arises from an event or life situation (short or long term) that causes trauma. Trauma that you either know is causing issues (child of alcoholic parents, or family death) or you don't know (childhood illness or premature birth) that is stored in your subconscious.  Either way we may not realize how intensely trauma can affect many areas of our life.
Often when we have a there is a belief attached. When the event trauma is not resolved then
we carry it with us and it continues to affect us even when we dont think it does.
We many have tried many methods to relieve our selves but they havent
 worked thus far.and often turns into a belief and is deep rooted in the body.
I help women identify the root belief associated with the pain and quickly
transform the pain so the
Me to answer these questions in the above paragraph...
What is it?
What does it to do us physically and psychologically?
What do I do?
What is the future benefit?
The button anchors to About You.
Well, almost all of us have emotional pain surrounding either a past event,
memory, or traumatic situation that has either caused us or continues to cause
us stress and pain, either emotionally or physically  - usually both (eg: "I feel so 
scared after my car accident that I don't want to drive and my leg is just not
healing right either".
And no amount of talking about "it", or avoiding "it", or reading self-help
books about "it", seems to help provide emotional relief and complete resolution. 
We just can't find the key to "get over it" even though we really want to.
Sometimes our mind willfully hides "it" in a closet which feels decent for
awhile as it is out of sight/mind  but when the closet door gets opened (by us or
someone else) the "it" has usually gotten bigger and sometimes multiplied to more "its"... kinda like dust bunnies (how does that happen?).

And most often the multiplication causes the "it" to trigger and affect other life areas such as relationships, career, family, and health.  And then we drink more wine in attempt to close the closet door again ... although that doesn't work as well as we want it to, and we know wine is just masking this problem and likely to cause a different one. 

I am frequently asked for examples of how beliefs form as a result of a traumatic event -  here are some common experiences:
Unexpected illness or health condition - My body is betraying me
Death of loved one - people I love leave me
Relationship infidelity - I can't trust anyone ever again
Adulthood assault sexual/physical - I am vulnerable and powerless
Childhood abuse physical/sexual - I am powerless to stop people hurting me
Job loss - I am not good enough

Emotional pain can show up physically in all areas of the body such as:
shoulder/neck stiff and tight
stomach/digestive issues
breathing/swallowing difficulties
Brain fog/memory loss
Exhaustion or constant fatigue
weight gain/loss
heartache with muscle tightness and 
shortness of breath
Emotional pains can show up psychologically as:
Uncontrollable/swinging pendulum emotions

What is your self-limiting belief?

What is your CAN'T that needs to change to "I CAN and WILL" to get you over what is holding you back?


Links and resources:

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informatal mentors like dr Joe

articles - As a researcher I love to learn and know. Contained here is information ont he multitde of modalities that can be used for self reflection. In my opinion all are good if practriced as dierected and then debriefed and put into action. First tes your belief on if it will work for you.

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Shamanic studies.

  • What we believe today affects our reality tomorrow

  • How?

  • 95% of our daily thoughts and behaviours are controlled by our subconscious mind
     (not our conscious thinking mind) 

  • Behavioural scientists confirm that our behaviours are a direct reflection of our beliefs, perceptions, and values that are generated from past experiences. 

  • our beliefs establish the limits of what we can achieve.

  • Our subconscious mind stores our beliefs, attitudes, and values about ourselves, others, and the world around us. These begin forming at birth and continue as we grow and are influenced by the environment we are in (family, culture, and life situation) and reinforced through events, situations, and traumas.

  • From our perceptions and conclusions about the world and ourselves we form either self-limiting or self-empowering beliefs.

  • Our reality is created by our subconscious beliefs that direct our observable actions and behaviours. They form the basis  for our actions and reactions to each new situation in our lives.

  • As Henry Ford once stated "If you believe you can, or if you believe you can't...you are right"

                         So before more time passes, now may be a good time to review your subconscious beliefs

Perhaps something I have written will spark your interest and give you pause to self-reflect about why you think or act a certain way.

​First, let's start with beliefs ... when was the last time you reviewed your beliefs, if ever?

​Many of us do not pay much attention to our beliefs because we are too busy living them out in our daily life...and do not realize how they lead our decisions.

​Beliefs are at the core of our personality and influence everything we do. 

​When our beliefs are self-empowering (eg: I am worthy, loved, and capable) then our thoughts, choices, and actions will lead our life accordingly.


​If our beliefs are self-limiting (eg: I am not worthy, unlovable, and not capable) then our life choices will be very different.
We may for example:

  • stay in an unhealthy relationship 

  • eat unhealthy, not exercise and ignore body/illness warning signs

  • never finish what we start

​Or worse ... we may struggle in our daily lives feeling like we are not getting ahead and wondering what we are doing wrong. We spend precious money and time trying to figure out the key to the magic lock that will make our lives easier and better.

​Or search endlessly for the something that will end our emotional pain. Often the something ends up being alcohol, prescriptions, drugs, shopping, or gambling. 

​And then we wake up one day years later and wonder how our life all went wrong.

​Often people have self-limiting beliefs that hinder them unknowingly. Sometimes the belief comes out as a "I can't" conviction such as:

"I can't draw if my life depended on it"

"I can't dance as I have two left feet"

"I can't sing because my throat closes up".

Often these kinds of beliefs stem from traumatic childhood events. Even though these sound like harmless statements the person would miss out on opportunities to explore their creativity because they are totally convinced they have no talent. So a fun hobby or activity would never be pursued.

​What is your "I can't" statement?

As a somatic therapist I specialize in finding the root cause of self-limiting beliefs that cause emotional and/or physical pain and then remove that pain.

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   Peterborough, Ontario, Canada


The information contained in this website is strictly limited to the modification of beliefs. The purpose is to engage the mind/body’s natural self-healing processes in order to complement, not replace, usual, customary, and reasonable medical treatment and medical care by qualified medical practitioners. Dianna Lee Graves does not diagnose medical conditions nor treat, heal, or cure any disease, illness, physical disability, medical problem or mental illness, whether chronic or acute. Treatment modalities are not a replacement for appropriate medical advice, medical attention or professional mental health care and should not be treated as such.